Too often, we wait to talk instead of really listening to other people’s ideas. Even if you think you disagree, try to consider the point of view and empathize with it before responding.
You could say something like, “I can tell you’ve worked super hard over the past 2 years to get your business off the ground. ” Or, “What you just said was really cool. I can tell you’ve thought a lot about this topic. ” Or, “I’ve never thought of it like that. You always offer a new perspective on complex issues. ”
A good way to empathize with someone you don’t agree with is to say, “Huh, I never thought of it that way. What makes you say that?” Then, you can learn more about the person and where they’re coming from.
Say something like, “That’s a good point. I think I’m seeing it a little differently though. . . "
It might also be helpful to have a plan in place so your mistake doesn’t happen again. For example, if you forgot a deadline at work, you could say, “I’m really sorry. From now on, I’ll be setting reminders on my phone and my computer so this doesn’t happen again. ”
Say something like, “Hey, I saw the way you were talking to Julia earlier, and it seemed kind of rude. I just wanted to let you know that your comment came off as really disrespectful, even though you might not have meant it that way. ”
Say something like, “I just wanted to let you know how much you mean to me. It was so helpful when you looked over my cover letter and my resumé—I know I couldn’t have gotten that job without you. ”
Instead of making your first reaction, “Why didn’t that happen to me?” try saying “That’s so great for them!” Keeping a positive attitude will focus attention away from yourself and spread goodwill.
Always come to work, school, or sports practice ready to go. Have your materials in order and complete all the necessary work ahead of time. You’ll show respect for others by not wasting their time. If you have too much on your plate and you can’t commit, just say no. It can be tough at first, but it’s better to be honest than to be flaky.
If it seems like one of your friends or neighbors is feeling down or going through a rough patch, give them the encouragement that they might need. Learning to say, “You’ve got this” can make all the difference in the world for someone who might be struggling.
Set aside a few minutes every day to practice self care. You could take a bath, read a good book, or listen to new music to lower your stress levels and take care of yourself.
This includes exercising regularly and maintaining a healthy diet.
