Keep it light. Remember to be fun and playful, and the guy will want you even more. Flirting isn’t about being serious, but about showing you’re interested and having fun. Maintain eye contact while you talk. Make the guy feel important. Occasionally break eye contact to look at your feet or blush, and the guy will think you’re demure and will be even more attracted to you. Speak in a soft voice. You don’t have to whisper, but you should talk in a lower voice so you sound sexy and make the guy lean in and get closer to you. Tease the guy. Show that you’re comfortable playing around and he’ll want to tease you back. Showing that you don’t take yourself too seriously will make the guy think you’re great in the bedroom.
Don’t be too eager. Gently slip your tongue inside his mouth and explore. Don’t go in for the kill with your tongue until it feels right. Be gentle. Slowly and gently move your tongue around the guy’s mouth. Don’t slosh it around and leave gobs of spit everywhere. Don’t ignore the rest of your body. Move your hands around his back, shoulders, and neck, and press your chest up against his. If you get bored with the French kiss, mix it up with a variety of other kisses.
Try some dirty talk in the bedroom. Tell him how much you like what he’s doing to you and let him know what else you want. Tell him your sexual fantasy, no matter how dirty it is. See if he can fulfill it for you. Tie his hands to the bedposts and have your way with him. Take turns. Go to the sex store together and find the sexiest lingerie possible as well as a few props. Bring them out whenever you feel like it.
Hold the guy’s gaze – but not for too long. Look at the guy, lock eyes for just long enough for him to see how sexy you are, and then look away. This will show that you’re not afraid to look at him, but that you’re also too coy to stare. Keep your body open. Don’t fold your arms over your chest or cross your legs. Your body should be saying, “Hey, what’s up?” If you’re wearing something with a zipper or a necklace, fiddle with the area near your cleavage to get his attention. Find ways to brush up against the guy. If you’re already talking, lightly graze his knee, brush up against his hand, or place a hand on his forearm when you’re laughing. Do it for just long enough that he wants more. Don’t linger. Occasionally lick your lips. If he’s watching you from across the room, take the time to apply your lip balm. Remember that every guy is different and try to understand his specific turn ons. [4] X Expert Source Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFTLicensed Relationship Therapist Expert Interview. 11 August 2021.
Give him gentle bites on his earlobes. Try some gentle bites on his neck – just be careful so you don’t leave a mark. Nibble on his lip in the middle of a kiss. If his shirt is off, don’t be afraid to bite his chest, or even his nipples. Nipples are an erogenous zone for men, too.
Be confident. Guys are turned on by confident women. If you can act confident when you talk to the guy or share things about yourself, he’ll think that you’ll be able to take that confidence to the bedroom. Be independent. Guys are turned on by women who don’t need them. Let the guy know about all of the things you love to do by yourself, and tell him about your busy weekend. Guys are not turned on by clingy girls who have nothing better to do than to hang out with them. Be sexy. You don’t have to be trashy to show a little leg or cleavage. Show some skin and don’t be afraid to make some raunchy jokes or to make a dirty innuendo if the mood feels right. The guy will be even more excited by your sexiness. Be bold. Guys are turned on by bold women, whether they’re being bold over a cup of coffee or in the middle of a make-out session. Be bold by doing something unexpected, like wearing something hot and outrageous, or getting down on the dance floor in the middle of a wild jam.
You’ll end up rubbing your hips against your guy’s every time you move back in after pulling apart, and he won’t be able to keep his hands off of you.
If you’ve taken off his shirt, you can try kissing him above his waistband. Tell him you’ll kiss him anywhere – except his lips. That will turn him on even more.
Make love in new places. Pick a new part of your home to make love, check into a hotel, or make love in some secluded or scandalous location. He will be turned on by your adventurous spirit. Make love in new positions. Though your guy may love it if you’re on top the whole time, he’ll love it even more if you mix it up and try to have sex in a new position every time you get to the bedroom. Get sexy in some water. Make love in the shower, or hook up in a pool or a hot tub. Your guy will be more turned on if you can be sexy in almost any scenario.
Hook up whenever you’re in the mood, even if you’re both just watching TV. Show him what you want and he’ll follow you to the bedroom. If you’re out in public and really want to get it on, just whisper it in his ear and go somewhere more private. Surprise him when he’s waking up or getting into the shower. You never know when he might be open to the possibility of having sex.
Pretend you’re his boss and boss him around until he lets you do whatever you want. Switch roles. Try having sex with almost all of your clothes on. Or have sex with just one person’s clothes on. Pretend you’re in a big fight and have makeup sex. Put on some raunchy costumes form the sex store and try some role play. Dress up really formally and pretend that you’re going out for a special occasion. Then take each others clothes off and go for it.
Keep looking sexy. Whether you’ve been hooking up for months or just finished your second hook-up session, make sure to keep looking hot, showing some skin, and taking care of your hygiene so your man always wants more. Make sure your man is thinking of sex when you’re not around. Send him an occasional dirty text, have phone sex, or just call to remind him of something sexy that happened in bed the night before. Let him know you want him. Tell him this whenever it feels right, even if it’s at a moment when you can’t possibly have him – that will make him want you even more. Send him some flirty messages and be playful. [7] X Expert Source Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFTLicensed Relationship Therapist Expert Interview. 11 August 2021.
