Watch his body language. If a guy wants to be more than friends, he’ll use many excuses to touch you. He may offer a hug upon seeing you for the first time. He may brush his fingers on your forearm. You may also catch him looking at you during odd times. He may also ask you questions to gauge whether you’re interested. He may, for example, ask about your weekend plans. He may also ask if you have dates for certain events, and even offer to escort you as a friend.
Many people feel inclined to be goofy or self-depreciating when first meeting people. While this tactic goes a long way in terms of making friends, it may falter when you’re trying to attract a new romantic interest. Instead of jokingly poking fun at yourself, strive to convey confidence. You can be funny. Funny can be very charming, but stick to making jokes about topics other than yourself. Try to be comfortable with yourself in general, smiling, standing up straight, and participating in conversation without hesitance.
Brief eye contact can convey romantic interest. Catch the guy’s gaze for a few seconds and then look away. You should also smile and act happy in general when around him. Try to mimic his body language. Do not be too obvious about this, but try to imitate his hand gestures and the way he’s positioning his body. For example, if he’s crossing his legs, cross your legs as well.
Try to say what you want outright with something like, “Hey, I really like you. Would you like to go on a date sometime?” Ask him how he feels, “Can I tell you something? I kind of like you. . . I was wondering, do you feel the same way?” Go for a hypothetical question if you’re nervous, “Hi. Random question. What would you say if I told you I had a crush on you?” Talk about why you’d be good together, “I feel like we have a lot in common and there’s some mutual attraction here. Would you want to go on a date with me?”
Understand you cannot predict another person’s behavior. Try not to get too hung up on how the guy may react. Go into the situation with no expectations. It’s okay to have some plan of what you’re going to say. In fact, it can be helpful to have some small speech planned out to help yourself stay calm. However, avoid playing out scenarios in your mind regarding how the conversation may unfold, and how the guy may respond.
Take a few deep breaths before going into the conversation if you’re feeling nervous. Try to talk slowly. People have a tendency to rush if they’re feeling nervous, so make a point of saying one word at a time.
Leave your guy friend surprises. Write him a special note telling him how much you care. Buy him a small present now and then. Be more physically affectionate. Seek to hold hands and cuddle when you’re together.
It may be easier to communicate openly when you started out as friends. You can have open, honest discussions with your partner about what you want out of the relationship, and what expectations you have regarding a romantic relationship. At first, you may have to reassure your partner a lot that you want the relationship. Let your partner know about once a week for the first few months you’re happy to be more than friends.
Try to stay positive in the event you’re rejected. Remember, the two of you are friends. Even if things will not work out romantically, try to value the fact you still have a solid friendship.
Keep up with existing social obligations and plans until you’ve made solid plans for a date. Do not, for example, clear you’re weekend because you’re planning to ask the guy out. Staying busy can also convey confidence, which can be attractive to many. Having your own life and obligations makes you look more desirable in the eye of the guy.
