“I’m sure you’re feeling confused and hurt by how I was acting. ” “I know you’re upset with me. ” “You’re angry and tired, and I understand that. ”
“I’m so sorry that I’ve been moody lately. ” “I want to apologize for acting so distant this week. ” “I couldn’t be more sorry about the way I treated you last night. ” “I want to apologize for the bad joke that I made. It wasn’t appropriate humor, and I honestly didn’t mean to hurt your feelings. If you’re apologizing over text, start with a preface like “I wish I could say this in person. I apologize for being moody” or “I’d rather tell you this face to face, but I’m sorry about the way I’ve been acting. ”
“I’m sorry that I blew up at you last night. ” “I apologize for giving you the cold shoulder this week. ” “I want to say sorry for acting so hot and cold yesterday. ”
“I’m sorry I’ve been moody lately. Work has been really stressful lately and I’ve been taking it home with me, which is unfair to you. ” “I apologize for yelling at you last night. My parents have been on my case all week and I just feel so tense all the time. ” “I’m so sorry for being unpredictable lately. I had a huge falling out with Katie on Tuesday and the drama of it all has been getting to me. It’s not your fault. ”
“I’m sorry for being so snarky lately. I’m trying to balance too many things and the pressure is getting to me. I know you must feel so confused and hurt when I say mean things. ” “I apologize for being so withdrawn and ignoring your calls yesterday. I’ve been going through a hard time lately and I can’t help but shut down sometimes. I can imagine it makes you question how I feel about you. ” “I want to say sorry for blowing up after dinner last night. It wasn’t your fault, I’m just really on edge right now because of my roommate situation. I know it was embarrassing for me to yell in public and I’m sure I ruined the night you had planned for us. ”
“I hope you can forgive me. ” “Do you forgive me?” “I know it might take some time, but I really hope you can accept my apology. ”
“I’m going to work on managing my stress so I’m not taking it out on you. ” “I’ll be better about keeping work at work so I can be my best self around you. ” “I promise to be more open about my feelings so I’m not so moody all of a sudden. ”
“Hey, I’m so sorry for being moody today. I’m just exhausted from working overtime and my fuse is short. I know you’re probably confused and worried about me. I promise I’ll work on balancing work better so I can be in a good mood when we’re together. I hope you can forgive me. ” “I want to apologize for giving you the silent treatment. I’m just really upset that I didn’t pass the bar exam and I’m taking it out on you, which is completely unfair. I completely understand why you’re angry and hurt by it. Do you forgive me?” “I’m sorry for being moody this week. I haven’t been able to get any down time since I got back from my trip and it’s getting to me. You’re frustrated with me and worried that I’m not acting like myself, and I appreciate that. Can you forgive me?”
“I’m still just upset about losing my scholarship. ” “I’ve been feeling down and moody since my parents split up. ” “I’m still adjusting to my new work schedule and I’m so stressed out. ”
Your tone is important too. Speak low and softly to sound even-tempered and sincere. Some affectionate touching, like a hug or holding hands, can help show that you mean what you say.
“I understand where you’re coming from. ” “Is there anything else you want me to know?” “Can you go more in-depth about that?” He’ll grow more comfortable opening up to you when you show him you can listen without reacting harshly, correcting him, or cutting him off.
“What can I do to make up for my lousy behavior?” “Is there anything I can do to make you feel better?” “Please let me know how I can make this up to you. ”
“Can we grab coffee tomorrow to talk more?” “Let’s get together soon—I really want to see you and make this OK. ” “Why don’t you come over tonight and we can get on the same page?”
Schedule some quiet or alone time for yourself to give your mind a break. Meditating, reading, or a bubble bath are great ways to take a breather. Go for a walk or run to work out some nervous energy. Even just a casual stroll will help clear your mind. Show yourself compassion. Acknowledge that you’re not in a great mood and try to imagine how that might impact the people around you, including your boyfriend.
