However, don’t block your ex if you need to talk about logistics, like kids or financial responsibilities.
Blocking your ex on social media is a good way to stop them from reaching out, too.
The no contact rule is all about helping you to move on. The more you can do that, the easier it will be to heal.
You could say something like, “Hey, I know you and Jason still hang out, which is fine. Would you mind just not talking about him around me? It’s all still a little fresh, and I’m just trying to focus on myself right now. ” If you follow any of your ex’s friends on social media, consider unfollowing them so you don’t get any inadvertent updates.
After your no contact timeline is up, feel free to unblock your ex and refollow them on social media. However, don’t feel like you have to reach out to them again—some people don’t ever talk to their exes after a breakup, and that’s okay.
“My ex and I were not a good match. ” “I was not happy when I was with my ex. ” “My ex and I are toxic together, and I’m breaking that cycle. ” “I want to focus on my needs, not my ex’s needs. ”
For every good memory, try to think of at least one bad one, too.
You don’t have to spend all your time with your friends talking about your breakup. If you just want to be distracted, tell them that, and let them come up with fun things for you to do to keep your mind off things.
Self-care looks different for everyone, so don’t be afraid to try a few different things, like hiking, doing a face mask, reading a good book, or listening to new music.
You could also reconnect with old friends or get a new pet. It’s up to you!
Everyone’s healing process looks a little different, and there’s no right or wrong way to move on from a relationship. If you can set your sights on the future, you’re already doing great!
Deciding to reach out to your ex is a very personal decision, and one you shouldn’t take lightly. Try thinking about why the relationship ended in the first place—if there were issues that you feel like you could both work on, your new relationship might just work out. Use the no contact time to really think through the relationship so you can make a more informed decision.
